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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • Please don’t write off all country music as being like this.

    S.G. Goodman

    Kaia Kater

    Melissa Carper

    Iris Marlowe

    Orville Peck

    Little Mazarn (a guaranteed religious experience every time for me; cannot recommend enough)

    H.C. Mcentire/Mount Moriah

    Amy Ray

    Grace Givertz

    Amythyst Kiah

    Carson McHone

    Creekbed Carter Hogan

    Adeem the Artist

    Charlotte Cornfield

    Sierra Ferrell

    Jaimee Harris

    Mckain Lakey

    Diane Cluck (more folksy, but my unofficial shaman makes the list)

    This is an incredibly short and incomplete list of country and folk music that isn’t right wing garbage. I don’t even personally listen to many of the more mainstream alternative country options. I listen to some amount of all of these people. I love love love folk and country music, and there are musicians out there making it just for me these days. Just avoid radio play garbage, and you’ll find that most forms of Americana are super gay and progressive.






  • You’ve declared someone you disagree with is making things up while criticizing the debate skills and tactics of those who disagree with you. What a fucking joke. You got some peer reviewed numbers to support your position about votes and arguments? Because from where I’m sitting, this nonsensical notion that people vote rigorously based on debate acumen and never with their emotions and libido along the lines of their existing beliefs is just as much a made up story. I’m not going to find numbers for a bad faith participant like you, but we already know people vote for real, important, world changing things with their emotions. The idea that the general populace is wildly more reasonable and responsible when the votes don’t matter at all is ludicrous.



  • I’m not saying people don’t pick sides in an argument

    What I’m saying is that these weren’t arguments. These were people weaponizing the voting system to keep minorities from self representing. I was downvoted below zero on a car repair sub for having runflats instead of a spare because I worked in and commuted through a bad part of town, often after midnight, where I wouldn’t feel safe stopping to change my tire. They made it clear that I was unwelcome because I am a woman, because my description of this gendered experience was unacceptable subreddit content.


  • If you’re getting downvoted in an argument, guess what, that means you’re bad at making arguments.

    I pretty much agree with your second sentence/point, but this is bullshit. I got so many downvotes on reddit for literal descriptions of my perceptions and experiences as a gay woman. Half the time there wasn’t even a debate or argument happening. As reddit culture skewed more and more conservative, many technical and nerdy communities became actively hostile to the basic facts of my existence. Then there are all the downvotes I got for believing in human and minority rights while downthread with some bigots. My more visible posts on the same topic would be solidly upvoted, while everything below the arrow was smashed below zero because only angry little shits followed the discussion that far. I agree that the system on Lemmy isn’t meaningfully different and will inevitably have the same effects, but sorting by voting over-centralizes the meta and destroys real discussion and diversity of experience and opinion. It literally only works in limited circumstances within subjects that have objectively correct answers. Anywhere else it introduces so much chaos.


  • Barbie has had her controversies, but she had always had feminist messaging, even if it was less mainstream feminism at times. She has always sat at the crux of a feminist debate: does she impress upon girls that they must look a certain way? Or does she impress upon girls that they can be capable and successful regardless of their traditional femininity. When Barbie was developed and released, the masculine, unattractive woman making it in a man’s world was a relatively common trope. The artifices of famininity were seen as signs of weakness and incompetence, while denying your femininity and emulating men meant a chance at more respectable, mainstream success. Barbie was a response to that idea, to the idea that a woman has to become like a man to succeed like one. Barbie can do everything, and she can do it in a dress and heels. Barbie can be an airline pilot and homeowner, and her plane and house can be as entirely feminine as her wardrobe. When times changed and the toxic femininity tropes shifted to slutty women using their bodies for success, Barbie was sometimes accused of playing into that trope. But that perspective misses the original context of Barbie’s disruptive femininity.