So for clarification: I’m 18 yo, Have a stable career of almost 2 years, in a family who doesn’t appreciate the work I do (family of 4 and a single mother), no friends for 3 years (was bullied though school and unable to befriend people at work). I struggle mentally more days than not, have has suicidal thoughts in the past however they are rare, don’t eat properly and struggle to find the motivation/ inspiration to improve.

I know I have a Pornography and Masturbation addiction, Sugar addiction and an improper sleep schedule (don’t fall asleep till gone midnight then don’t wake up for 10 - 12 hours).

I want your advice on things to do, literally the basics. I’ve tried to improve before however my system came crashing down on me very quickly. I am genuinely looking for help. The past 5 years or so have been hell on earth for me and I want to change it for 2024, it’s a battle only I can fight and I feel like I’m taking on the world.

Is there any YouTube videos, books, articles, etc that you would suggest to get me started on this journey. I’m writing this out of desperation and loneliness as I have no one to turn to.

  • misterfenskers@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    7 months ago

    I really don’t think I’m the person to be giving advice, but I can shed some light on a few of these things.

    First of all regarding your job, you shouldn’t have to answer to anyone about it. The real question is if it makes you happy or leaves you feeling content. As long as you don’t hate what you do, I say that’s a win for now.

    For making friends, the only suggestion I have would be to find a social hobby. My most recent one is disc golf, but there are people out there playing pick up games in any sport, there are rec leagues out there for softball and kickball. Something like that. (Remember, you don’t have to like everyone there. Just talk about what interests you and if there’s no spark, move along.)

    Mental health is weird. We’re all learning more every day. All I can say about that is move at your pace, celebrate every victory no matter how small, and try to learn something every day.

    I hope that my advice helps or at least didn’t hinder. Either way, keep your head up. Find something that makes you happy and do that.